Kwanza Says: You Shouldn’t Care When Deciding What to Wear!

Kwanza Says: You Shouldn’t Care When Deciding What to Wear!

This week’s Questions 4 Kwanza comes from Dinah. She wants to know… “What do I do when I’m trying to put together a look?”  In this week’s video, I do a little “show and tell” about what to wear. Check out the video and see my tips and supercharged advice on clothing, fashion, wardrobe and style.

My Supercharged Style Advice For Dinah:

  • Accessories, Accessories, Accessories! — No matter the season or what the latest trends are, ALWAYS let your personality shine through your accessories. Go bold, or keep it simple, as long as you’re feeling SUPERCHARGED.
  • Don’t Be Afraid Of Color! — That doesn’t mean wearing every color of the rainbow all at once – unless the situation calls for it- but don’t be afraid to mix it up with different colors, prints, and fabrics. Have fun and experiment until you find a look that makes you feel amazing!

And remember, stay true to yourself from head to toe.

What are you thoughts? How do you determine what to wear when you get up in the morning? What advice would you give?  Let me know. Leave a comment below!

Who loves you? I do.

bye for now, xoxoxoxo — Kisses from Kwanza

Kwanza Says: STOP HATE!

Kwanza Says: STOP HATE!

We’ve all been there. We’ve seen or heard things that we thought were downright wrong. Through Project “Time To Go,” I am bringing awareness to issues, attitudes and views whose time has passed. It’s time for an end to inequality. Stop Hate. Share this video and join me in letting haters know, it’s TIME TO GO!

I’m known as an Ambassador for Equality because I’m an outspoken supporter of equality and empowerment causes.

Kwanza Says:  Get Off Your Butt and Fail!

Kwanza Says: Get Off Your Butt and Fail!

Too often we don’t do something because we’re concerned that we might fail. But what if failure is the secret ingredient that leads to success? In many ways it is.

Kwanza Says: Fail Better- Having to recover from failure can increase your competitive drive and your resilience…

– Having faced failure you learn what hasn’t worked which leads to trying something different

– Viewing failure as an inevitable step means you’re more inclined to take risks and work harder.

Ultimately, if you’re failing it means you’re doing things and not wasting time waiting for something to happen. This act of doing is a necessary step toward success.

I think you get the point. The single most important thing you can do is something. Lots of people have an idea but an idea without action is like trying to breath without inhaling. You’re not gonna get too far.

Who cares if you fail? It’s all about the recovery.

Happy New Year! Don’t dwell on your past failures. Continue to push toward your future successes!

Kwanza Says:  Somebody Told You Wrong

Kwanza Says: Somebody Told You Wrong

Has someone ever told you… “You’re fat,” “You’re ugly,” “You’ll never be good enough,” “You’re worthless,” “No one will ever like you.” Or maybe they didn’t say those words exactly but what they said made you feel that way.

In those moments, when you let their words sink in, something happensKwanza Jones says Somebody Told You WrongYou begin to loose a little bit of yourself and the thought of being exactly who you are just doesn’t seem to be enough.

Well, let me clear things up once and for all… SOMEBODY TOLD YOU WRONG!

What “somebody told you” is just that — something they told you. THEIR words, THEIR ideas, THEIR suggestions. They don’t belong to you unless you decide to take them. They are not real unless you choose to give them power.

If someone isn’t telling you words that uplift then choose not to listen. The choice is YOURS. You can choose to listen to what someone told you or you can choose to listen to yourself, follow your intuition and do whatever makes you happy.
Remember, the story you tell yourself about your life is what your life becomes.

Kwanza Says:  In Your Dreams

Kwanza Says: In Your Dreams

Everyone has dreams. I’m not talking about the dreams that you have when you close your eyes and go to sleep. I’m talking about the dreams you have during your waking moments. The ones that move you to take on a new challenge or push you beyond your comfort zone. The ones that might even scare you a bit because you don’t know how to achieve them but you persevere anyway.

The pursuit of our dreams can help us live a life filled with passion. This is why one of the saddest things is to hear about someone who no longer dreams. Someone who has become so overwhelmed with anger, hurt, disappointment, bitterness or fear that dreaming seems a frivolous and pointless activity.
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Last week, Marcia and Cliff from PATCH Fashions and The Ruby May Staine Foundation dropped by the office. Their company and foundation are changing people’s lives by reawakening dreams. 

Marcia, her son, and her sister have a fashion accessory business. One of their featured products are ankle  belts that can also be worn around the wrist, arm or neck. Both versatile and fashionable — nice combo! Aside from the diversity of their designs, what really moved me was the story behind the designers. Through their foundation, they help homeless men and women, seniors, and underprivileged children. They provide homemade quilts to nursing homes and homeless shelters, and backpacks that are fully stocked with school supplies. But in reality, they provide more than just these material things.

One of the events they coordinate, in conjunction with the Downtown Women’s Center, Nest Feathers, and Gladtees, displays this. Given that PATCH designers are in the fashion industry, it‘s fitting they would organize a fashion show. But what makes their shows unique is that their models are homeless and transitional women. More than raising money and awareness, they help raise self-esteem. More than models of fashion, they are models of change. After being involved in a recent show, one of the models, said that she used to walk on the sidewalk with her head down but now “when I walk down the sidewalk I’m going to walk with my head held high, even if I’m going to trip.”

Her sentiment displays the power of dreams. Dreaming encourages action. Action leads to change. And remember, even if you trip while pursuing your dreams, at least you’re making progress.

Kwanza Says:  Words Matter

Kwanza Says: Words Matter

WORDS MATTER. Look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I am fearless, fabulous and capable of doing great things.” How does that make you feel? Now what if you were to change those words to “fearful, awful and incapable of doing anything great?” No doubt you would have a different perception of yourself.

I was thinking about how much words matter when I got a tweet from my friends GEMSGIRLS. They asked me to consider signing their petition to Stop E! Fashion Police’s “Starlet or Streetwalker” segment. Oftentimes, those who are subjected to the labels of “streetwalker, prostitute or whore” are victims of sexual exploitation. So, instead of calling someone a “streetwalker,” why not say “sexually exploited streetwalker?” It takes on a different meaning altogether, huh? Once again, words matter.

I checked out the petition to Stop E! Fashion Police’s “Starlet or Streetwalker” segment. Opinions about what is fashionable can provide endless hours of arguments or entertainment — just look at the number
Kwanza Says Words Matter of fashion “do’s and don’ts” shows that are out there. E!’s Fashion Police show is no different. They capitalize on our fascination with fashion. All of this is good, clean, frivolous fashion fun — except when it’s not.

The “Starlet or Streetwalker” segment, pits celebrities’ fashion choices against prostitutes wardrobes. And that is when fun turns foul. Celebrities knowingly open themselves to public scrutiny. From red carpets to press interviews, scrutiny not only comes with the territory but many times their fashion choices are specifically selected to garner more media attention. Usually, the more glaring the fashion faux pas the more press coverage is received.

Prostitutes, on the other hand, are not seeking this sort of widespread attention. Although some make a conscious decision to enter into the commercial sex trade, most do not. Instead, they are involved in the trade involuntarily. They are victims of abuse, violence, human-trafficking, coercion or exploitation. E!’s “Starlet or Streetwalker” segment continues this exploitation by putting these victims into a comparison game. They are trading on the prostitutes’ predicament and calling it entertainment. Their mockery is cruel, insensitive and further stigmatizes an already marginalized community.

Rachel Lloyd, director of GEMS, the nation’s largest organization offering direct services to girl-survivors of domestic trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation, also recognizes that words matter and language is important. In her Huffington Post article, she wrote, “calling them survivors of commercial sexual exploitation and trafficking, as opposed to ‘teen/child prostitutes’, ‘prostitutes’, or especially hookers, whores or hos can begin to lift some of the shame that you feel and help you recognize that it’s something that happened to you, not who you are.”

By their own description, E! is a “network with programming dedicated to the world of entertainment” news and “celebrity inside information presented in a fun, irreverent tone.” I say, that’s fine when the programming is kept to the “celebrities.” But with the Fashion Police’s “Starlet or Streetwalker” segment seemingly using photos of real prostitutes, E! crossed the line. Until that segment of the programming ends, “E!” seems to stand for “Exploitation” not “Entertainment.”  You see, words matter.

Let your voice be heard. Let your words matter. Join me and many others – sign the petition.